Went to the mailbox today to find a postcard-sort of invitation for hubby to subscribe to Playboy.
Pictures of naked girls on front and back with the words "______ __ ______(hubby's full name including middle initial in bold and all caps), you've been selected to enjoy Playboy for just $1 an issue, our absolute lowest price! And get a FREE DVD! Playboy's "Nude Celebrities" DVD is yours free with your paid subscription. Act now!"
Deep breath. Why did hubby receive this in the mail? How did they get his name, this address? Has he recently had a subscription to Playboy? That's impossible, I am home all day and am always the one to check the mail. Has he been lying to me? What if my 7-year-old son would have gotten the mail today? Oh my God, I'm going to hyperventilate.
Deep breath. What to say to hubby? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I can't. He is in the best place he has ever been, and this would terrify him. Set him back. No, I can't, I can't tell him he received this.
Deep breath. Hubby is in recovery. Hubby is not lying to me. Hubby is not secretly stashing porn mags or videos. I can trust him.
Deep breath. I'm going to shred this piece of **** and get it out of my house, and he will never know.
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Hi Amy,
Without giving you advice, I just wanted to leave a comment of how it is possible to get through this situation and how I handled something similar. You are absolutely right on by not trying to manage his recovery. But, in the same spirit, you can protect yourself and your 7 year old son.
It is possible to call Playboy and tell them to remove you from their mailing list completely. I had to do that with Victoria's Secret. They were very respectful about removing me, too. I just told them I had small children and I didn't want the catalog to come to the house anymore and I haven't heard from them since.
I don't see it as controlling our h's recovery, I see it as protecting ourselves and our children from these images.
Deep breath, you're doing great Amy!
Love,
D
Amy -
I have a slightly different perspective (albeit you have to do what you feel is right and best) on this topic.
I think you need to approach your husband about the mail. Not to control his recovery but let him know that he (and you) will have to be ever vigilant against this soul sickness!
Michael
D,
Thanks for the comment! I suppose I was so shocked because of the 11 years of marriage, we have never received anything like that in our mailbox! Maybe I was freaking out about "why" my hubby was all of a sudden receiving this.....
Thanks for making me stop and think of something I could do to keep it from happening again! But, how exactly would I contact Playboy???? I'm scared to google them, and I doubt they are in the phonebook :)
Michael,
Thanks for your comment as well! It is awesome that I received a comment from a female perspective as well as a male perspective. So you would want to know if this offer arrived at your house? I just can't see it doing anything but spooking my hubby and making him even more paranoid than he already is. But, you have given me something to think about! Thanks!
Amy
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